Question #11: What is stopping me from doing the things that I should be doing?

For a long time, I would say I don’t know. But that’s not really true. I’m afraid to fail. To try something I might not be good at and fail miserably. Or to fail publicly.

There seems to always be that person asking the question, “What would you do if you couldn’t fail?” I think more importantly its what could we accomplish if I believed we couldn’t fail? Or if we all believed we couldn’t fail?

I want to be this type of leader.

I see the potential in people, the possibility of what we could create if we stopped blaming one another and believed in what we could achieve. According to the Myers-Briggs assessment, I am an INFJ. Someone who is creative and insightful, but also sensitive and a perfectionist. It seemed to describe me pretty well to be honest.

I’ve always been someone who tries to understand the bigger picture, tries to understand how people think and someone works to make people see the potential that they have in themselves. You can take an assessment for yourself at

As work gets more and more stressful, I tend to pull back from my true nature. I can get easily swept up into the day to day problems and focus on short term issues. As I move further into leadership, I’ve begun to understand that I need to get a better handle on the things that stress me out.

  • Unclear schedules and deadlines
  • Scope “creep” or objectives that continually change
  • Indecision by those in higher leadership roles

These issues are just out of my control at my current level in the organization. If they are being addressed by upper leadership, then all I can do is explain this to my team and wait for the rollout of the information. And move on!

There are so many things that I can control. A problem and how the team addresses it. An issue and how we are going to solve it. Pulling in resources that are needed from other teams or other leaders. Coordinating throughout the organization to get work completed and to remove roadblocks. Allowing my team the flexibility to work a solution and a plan out for themselves. To make recommendations to me and to figure out how to work together to accomplish a better solution.

These are the things I can control.

This is where I want to focus.

This is what I want for my life and for the lives of people who work with me.

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