Like many people, I worry way to much about what people think about me. I have an internal passion and zest for life that seems to come alive when I am around other people. I love to let that shine through.
It hasn’t always been that way…
I grew up overweight, nerdy and introverted. A combination that forced me into hiding for most of my teen years.
As I went through college and the early part of my career, I slowly started coming out of my shell. I made friends, traveled and learned more about myself. Even through all that, I still worried too much about what people thought about me. Or what I thought they were thinking about me and I would go back to the safety of my introverted nature.
I had good mentors through the years though. I casually mentioned to one, in conversation, about my belief that it was hard for me to form close relationships. He was amazed that I had these thoughts. In his mind, I was blessed with the ability to easily start up conversations in almost any situation, put strangers completely at ease and make quick connections. It was true. I did have those skills, but I still held something back.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ – Marianne Williamson
What if I embraced who I really was and I fell flat on my face? What if I tried something and failed? What if someone said I wasn’t “brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous”?
I no longer cared what people thought
One day it all clicked. Perhaps I was this person, who many mentors and friends said I was all along.
Maybe it was just my lack of confidence in myself that held me back.
Maybe I could just try letting my true nature show.
My overly optimistic, enthusiastic self. A person who trusts others implicitly, who believes in the power of teamwork and who wants to see the best in others.
The confidence to be myself
I think confidence and FI go hand-in-hand. One of the highlights of FI is to start saving up money so you have choices. This is aptly named, FU money. The money that gives you the ability to just say f*** this and walk away if you really wanted.
I think this is an extremely valuable part of FI. The ability to risk. The ability to take a see a situation in a new light, without fear.